That One Time I Bought A Car Online

From the desk of Kelsey Buell, 


Your mindset is a powerful tool. Let me tell you a quick story…


One time I bought a car online.


It was a white Porsche Cayenne with caramel interior.


She. Was. Beautiful.



And she was also a very good deal. For a reason…


After the car had been delivered to our driveway, we took it to an autobody shop to get a full look over.


We wanted to be sure it was good to drive and fully functional.


After dropping it off for a few hours, the auto mechanic called. “I wouldn’t let my mom or my girlfriend drive this car. The transfer case is off and it looks like someone tried to paint the side of the car with cheap paint.”


My heart sunk. 


Needless to say, we returned the car. It was going to be a lot more expensive to keep with all of it’s issues than it was to return.


I was so incredibly disappointed. 


I was hoping I could just return the car and just forget about it, but instead, what do you think happened next?


I began to see white porsche cayennes EVERYWHERE.


Every. Single. time….I went out to drive around, I began to see them.


It wasn’t until I got a different car that I really enjoyed that I was able to stop obsessing over the porsches I was seeing.


What’s the moral of the story?


What you focus on determines your reality.


What you think about, you bring about…


We can train our brains what to focus on.


There’s this thing called the reticular activating system in our brain that is pre-programmed to keep us safe.


This means it’s programmed to notice the things we train it to notice.


It wasn’t until I replaced my thoughts about a new car, that I began to be more positive about the situation.

How can you work towards replacing your negative thoughts with more positive ones?


Replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts can be challenging, but with practice and persistence, it is possible to cultivate a more optimistic and constructive mindset. Here are some tips to help you with this process:


  • Awareness of negative thoughts: Pay attention to your thought patterns and recognize when negative thoughts arise. Awareness is the first step in making any change.


  • Challenge negative thoughts: Once you become aware of negative thoughts, question their validity. Ask yourself if there is evidence to support these thoughts or if they are simply assumptions. Often, negative thoughts are based on irrational fears or biases.


  • Reframe negative thoughts: Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of a situation, try to reframe your thoughts in a more positive or balanced way. For example, if you catch yourself thinking, “I’m terrible at this,” change it to, “I’m still learning, and with practice, I can improve.”


  • Practice gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and what you are grateful for. Regularly take time to appreciate the good things, no matter how small they may seem.


  • Surround yourself with positive influences: Spend time with people who have a positive outlook and support your efforts to think more positively. Avoid individuals who consistently bring you down or reinforce negative thinking.


  • Use positive affirmations: Create and repeat positive affirmations that resonate with you. These affirmations can help rewire your brain to think more positively over time. For example, “I am capable,” “I believe in myself,” or “I embrace challenges as opportunities to grow.”


  • Engage in activities you enjoy: Participate in hobbies or activities that bring you joy and a sense of accomplishment. Doing things you love can help shift your focus away from negative thoughts.
  • Practice mindfulness and meditation: Mindfulness techniques can help you become more aware of your thoughts without judgment. Meditation can also promote a sense of calm and reduce stress, making it easier to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.


  • Seek professional help if needed: If negative thoughts are significantly impacting your well-being and daily life, consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor. They can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific needs.


  • Be patient with yourself: Changing thought patterns takes time and effort. It’s essential to be patient and compassionate with yourself during this process. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small, and don’t be too hard on yourself if you have setbacks.


Remember that replacing negative thoughts with positive ones is a skill that can be developed over time. Consistent practice and a willingness to challenge your thinking will gradually lead to a more optimistic and resilient mindset.


What does the Bible say about staying positive?


The Bible encourages believers to cultivate a positive and hopeful outlook on life. These teachings emphasize trust in God, gratitude, love, and a focus on positive virtues. Here are some Bible verses that highlight the importance of having a positive attitude:


  • Philippians 4:8 (NIV): “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
  • Romans 8:28 (NIV): “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
  • Proverbs 17:22 (NIV): “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NIV): “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
  • Psalm 118:24 (NIV): “This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”
  • Isaiah 26:3 (NIV): “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you.”
  • Matthew 6:25-34 (NIV): These verses encourage believers not to worry excessively about the future but to trust in God’s provision and care.
  • Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV): “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things, there is no law.”
  • Colossians 3:2 (NIV): “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”
  • Psalm 136:1 (NIV): “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever.”


These verses emphasize the importance of focusing on positive, uplifting thoughts, being grateful, trusting in God’s goodness, and maintaining a joyful and hopeful attitude. A positive attitude, rooted in faith and love, can help believers navigate challenges, find strength in difficult times, and live a life that reflects God’s teachings.


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