Why Is Being Grateful So Hard?

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From the desk of Grace Lange, 

I have had a task on my list to write a blog about gratitude for the longest time, but I have made every excuse to find something else to do rather than write about it… 


I am not sure. 

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When I think of gratitude, I think of gratitude journals and the countless times I’ve heard people tell me:

“Just live in the moment.” 

“You should be thankful, you have such an amazing life.” 

“Gratitude solves everything.” 

We all know that gratitude is the best tool when it comes to bringing ourselves back to the things that really matter, but it is still so hard to stay in a state of gratitude. 

I think that’s why I found it so hard to write this blog… 

The world tells us that gratitude journals or setting reminders on our phones will help us become the most grateful people… 

But sometimes that just doesn’t work. 

I wanted to write a blog to give the best advice out there, but I may not have the best advice when it comes to gratitude. 

This has always been something I have struggled with, because I am a futuristic person. I am constantly seeking something bigger and better, and it has caused a lot of unhappiness in my life. 

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I do understand that an attitude of gratitude does help me come back to reality and ground me… but why is it so hard to get there sometimes? 

As I sit here and reflect on this, I have come to the conclusion that I am a stubborn person, and when someone or something reminds me to be grateful, I almost get angry… 

When I am in a bad mood it is the last thing I want to do. 

I let my pride get in the way of happiness, because I want to sit in my unhappiness for some reason. 

Do you struggle with this? 

I think the real solution is to put your pride and ego aside and allow ourselves to be satisfied and happy in each moment…. 

Even when it seems absolutely impossible to find the good, we need to remind ourselves that it isn’t worth it to stay in our ungratefulness. 

Gratitude actually does solve everything. 

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Even when it is so hard to just find one thing to be grateful for, I challenge you to search for it… 

Even when you don’t want to go there. Even when you want to sit in your pain. 

Don’t let yourself. 

Put your ego and pride aside and just let yourself be present and grateful. 

Oh and Happy Thanksgiving. I am grateful for you.

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