By: Grace Lange

What do you do no matter what, no matter when, no matter who?

Whatever it is, that is your non-negotiable.

You can have daily, weekly, monthly, or even yearly non-negotiables.

They follow your values, and they define what you will and what you won’t say yes to. And when you look at your calendar, it should be filled with your non-negotiables – things that you do to make you happy or to make your day just a little bit better.

For some, that could mean waking up at a specific time, always having coffee a certain way, and completing their morning routine on time, because it means a lot to them to start their day off in a particular way.

Your non-negotiables often turn into your habits.

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit…

When you look at your calendar, do you have room each day or each week to add in a non-negotiable for the next 21 days that could make your day or week go by smoother, or make you happier?

How do you choose your non-negotiables?

The question you need to ask yourself is: How do I know what to say yes to?

That question will help you discover what you value and how to truly define what you need to set as your “has-to-happen” occurrence.

A great way to start is to make a list of questions you can ask yourself before making a commitment. Write down a list in your phone notes, and refer to it when you are making a decision.

Here, we started a question’s list for you:

  1. Did I enjoy doing it last time I did something similar?
  2. Is this a “HELL YES”?
  3. Will my future self give my current self a high five for doing this?
  4. By saying yes to this, what am I saying no to?
  5. Is this something that scares you? If so, why?

What will you say yes to this week?

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